“If some lives form a perfect circle, others take shape in ways we cannot predict or always understand. Loss has been a part of my journey. But it has also shown me what is precious. So has a love for which I can only be grateful.”—Message in a Bottle
“I have decided to love. If you are seeking the highest good, I think you can find it through love. And the beautiful thing is that we are moving against wrong when we do it, because John was right, God is love. He who hates does not know God, but he who has love has the key that unlocks the door to the meaning of ultimate reality.”—
I had the opportunity to flip through a book entitled…get ready for it…: “Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl,” Seriously, lol. It had the funniest scenarios from guys about the many different women they’ve dated as well as a lot of “dos and don’ts”. I had a really good time laughing at the male view of women and how quirky women can be. I also had a few huge eye openers. It’s a pretty uncanny look inside the brain of a man. I also saw a lot of common mistakes that women make that I cringed at. Hey, no one is a pro at dating and I honestly think that some people just are not the right match for you. Just because you’ve never been the “girlfriend girl”, does not mean that you suck at dating. It just means that you keep choosing the wrong one. Sometimes, no matter how much effort you put into a relationship, it’s already scheduled to self destruct from the very beginning. The fates have already decided that it’s just not going to work. Why not try saying: “It just didn’t get off the ground…” versus, the whole whoa is me, ice cream eating, never gonna love again routine. Trust me, been there, done that. If a book truly existed on how to be a pro at dating and finally finding your match, there would be a lot less single people. I think it’s all about finding out who you are and knowing that even though you might want a companion, it’s not a necessity. I’m single and I’m still living and breathing. Single, is not a sickness, but it’s quite the delightful ride of knowing who you are and someday, bumping into that person that truly appreciates you for who you are. Don’t get me wrong. I do believe in being a strong woman and absolutely not a “yes woman”. But, a bitch??? Absolutely not. Yes, I believe we are programmed to desire someone, but I don’t believe it’s supposed to put us in agony. I honestly don’t think we should have to jump through hoops and perform to be likable to someone. I don’t believe relationships should chip us down to nothing until we can’t seem to find anything to give to “the one” when he finally does come along. Again, don’t get me wrong. Part of me really did enjoy this book and I found a lot of it quite entertaining. Some of it was actually really good advice that’s already common sense. I just don’t want to feel as though I have to be anything other than myself for a relationship to work or to be loved. So may of us go through life feeling broken when we just need to realize that sometimes we are just trying to force something to work that just won’t. It’s like two north and south magnets trying their hardest to be together and then just propelling apart. The force it takes to even get them to come near each other is exhausting and it will never be said that they are compatible. They are just unyielding and unwilling. Life is too short for all of that drama. Just live, take a breath, and let live.
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl is written by Sherry Argov
Regret is the poison that condemns the tree. It will eventually destroy you. Don’t look back. If we were meant to live life backwards, the clock would tick counterclockwise. We’d grow younger instead of older and we’d never regret or see the past because we wouldn’t remember it. Wouldn’t that make life more simple? Trust me, it wouldn’t. I’m sure we’ve all seen “The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,” but what is life if you don’t have the wrinkles, the grays, the laugh lines, the memories…We must all learn to accept the things we cannot change. What are you going to do? Stand there staring at the past that you wish to God you could go back and change, but you know going back is impossible? To me, it’s forbidden. While looking back at the past, one misses everything that’s happening in the present. It’s like the brain is in the past and the rest of the body is on life support. Why give half when you can give 100%? Why not take each day that you open your eyes as a second chance? Being human means that it’s okay to make mistakes. Grace is something that I will always be forever grateful for. “The Sea of Forgetfulness” is something that I learned about as a child. I chuckled because I knew God doesn’t forget. The phenomenal fact is that when we ask for forgiveness, He chooses to forget. Now, if He can make that choice, I’m positive that we can.